Spring has arrived. Have you done your spring cleaning yet? Sure, you can clean out your closet, dust your blinds, and beat your rugs. But can you throw out that no good man of yours? I hope you know how to declutter your life because it is very unhealthy to hold on to that which is polluting your mind and cluttering up your heart. If you have a lot of STUFF around you, I pray that the following information motivates you to do some spring cleaning.
I’ve come to realize that you can’t attract a healthy love as long as you are holding on to all of his STUFF. I am not a professional love guru by any stretch of the imagination. However, I have had my share of men cluttering up my life with their self-serving STUFF. In a way, I am definitely a self-proclaimed expert; I know how to throw out that messy man. Clutter makes attracting a loving man either difficult or just flat-out impossible.
The first step to decluttering your love life is to break up with your no-good man. If you have a good man, hold on to him for dear life. If you do not have a man who completely adores you, it is time to get rid of him and all of his STUFF! I don’t mean possessions either; I mean all of the mental STUFF that he deposited in your mental bank account.
Try the completely honest approach. This is perhaps the best way to break up with your partner. In order to avoid a messy break up, you must be brutally honest with him. I have learned through my own trials and tribulations that breaking up with someone via e-mail, phone, or text are generally considered rude and tacky. It is best to schedule a meeting with him so you can address your issues face to face. It is real simple: Just tell your man that you are no longer interested in seeing him. It works! Trust me. Be careful. Don’t let him drag out the issue at hand. You are under no obligation to explain exactly why you are ending the relationship. If he has any pride at all, he will simply accept defeat and back off. Oh, ladies, please do not be the bearer of bad news. It is not necessary to crush his ego with news that you are sleeping with his best friend. Just a joke!!!! Please ladies, seriously, have some compassion.
Try the avoidance approach. If you would rather avoid a discussion about the relationship, it is okay to simply disappear. Perhaps he doesn’t deserve an explanation. If this is the case, don’t answer the phone, set up a filter in your e-mail to delete his messages automatically, block him from seeing your facebook page, and change your phone number. Without a doubt, he will get the not so subtle hints and he will move on without you. Of course, a persistent man might show up at your job or at your home. If this happens, please do not be scared to call the police. Statistics prove that some men turn violent after a break-up. If your man is abusive or turns abusive, please consider filing a police report and obtaining a personal protection order. The PPO is not just a piece of paper. The PPO gives you some power. Please call the police and put his ass in jail. You deserve better. Get rid of that piece of trash!
The break up with me approach works too. You can either tell him how horrible you are, or you can start doing things to show him how horrible you are. Please refrain from violence. Violence is not necessary. My advice is simply to get on his nerves so doggone bad that he will leave skid marks. The one advantage to taking this approach is you probably won’t hurt his feelings or crush his fragile ego.
Once you declutter your life institute the “no contact rule.” Please give your ex some time to get over you. We all need time to heal after a break-up. Spring is in the air. Don’t just clean your home. Dig deeper! Clean up your love life: Throw out that unhealthy relationship, go into therapy, and plant new seeds. Remember, bloom time is almost here.
Love, hope, peace, and joy,
Rachel Araya
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